Marriage Intensives are a focused, condensed form of couples counseling that occur over a period of 1-2-3 days, usually a weekend, using the Gottman Method. Marriage Intensives allow couples to dive deeply into their issues without the frustration of starting and stopping as in weekly sessions. In general you will meet for 5-6 hours each day with breaks built in for lunch, reflection, and individualized activities. This extended session option gives you ample, uninterrupted time to devote to your relationship. Marriage intensives can help move couples from thinking of ending their relationship to recommitting in new ways. It can also start premarital couples on the right track to have a life-time of relationship satisfaction.
Before the first session:
Once a marriage intensive is booked, the process starts immediately with me emailing you both a confidential online questionnaire to complete separately. The assessment is a tool created by The Gottman Institute. It illuminates the dynamics of the relationship, highlighting the strengths and areas of concern, as well as what the hopes are for counseling.
During the intensive:
Day 1 of the intensive will begin with the 3-hour Relationship Assessment. You both will meet with me to talk about the history of your relationship, detailing the twists and turns that helped you arrive at the current state of concern. I will then see you each individually. Short breaks will be scheduled within the first 3 hours. After the lunch break or in our second intensive session I will share all that I've learned in your couples meeting, on-line assessments and individual sessions and talk with you about your relationship strengths and areas of concern. I will discuss the goals for therapy and explain the process of Gottman Method Couples Therapy. Once all are in agreement, we dive right into the therapeutic process, working to achieve those intentions.
Most intensives are scheduled for 6 hours each day but can be set up to meet for 3 hours over 2 different days. In a one day intensive you will spend 3 hours in the morning with me and another 3 hours after lunch with short breaks during the 3-hour blocks. During the intensive you can expect to gain new skills and tools to build your friendship, manage conflict and create shared meaning. You will work to repair regrettable incidents and have an opportunity to break through previously unsolvable gridlocked issues.
After the conclusion of the marriage intensive, you will be encouraged to return for follow up sessions to assure the benefits are maintained.
Contact me to answer your questions and get the process started.